Thanks for all the warm welcomes again!
FourFourSeven - Thank you! To answer your question...it is very hard to answer. While I personally know that I don't enjoy the vast majority of anime, I know others do for their own reasons, just as I for my own. I don't particularly dislike controversial series either, in fact, many of my favourites never quite made it here due to culture discrepancy. At any rate I want to keep an open mind as much as possible.
I think every anime would have some merit. I mean, it has to in order to have a studio working behind it all. Someone will enjoy it, and that's how they'll make their money back. However, there are certainly things I won't watch as they leave me quite unsettled and disturbed. If it seems to glorify violence especially with blood effects, I will feel a bit nauseous - I remember an AMV contest at the anime club, when someone used clips from Bleach. I had to had to turn away and I felt sick and weak for many days, though it was probably due to stress at the time as well. It was kind of a weird experience given I did not mind these things so much before, but this response is something I grew into I suppose.
I feel that fighting is a bit sad and should signify a great crisis, so watching anime turn it into somewhat of a sport is what unsettles me. That said, I am not very well-versed with action anime, but I think some mainstream action like Naruto and Dragon Ball do a decent job on emphasizing how difficult the predicament the characters are in and how harrowing a do or die confrontation can really be. Of course while reading or watching these, I am happy to see the characters overcome their obstacles which are not by any means unrelatable. But I feel that because some of the fan service has been tailored to the shounen demographic, perhaps the children and teens will miss the point among the flashy scenes. And so since I've expounded on this already, I think Bleach, especially in the later arcs, is a good example of how solemnity of fighting and violence can be lost.
Some ecchi anime and manga actually have a really good underlying message, such as Chobits, so I don't want to say that they are lost to me simply because they contain elements to attract "that" crowd. Actually, some series with a very deep complicated message have lots of ecchi elements...though the execution may be regarded as flawed I don't think it discounts from the experience of watching or reading as long as the subject and the theme is conveyed as the author intends.
But the other extreme is ecchi elements to simply titillate in that no plot-worthy character elements are build upon. Watching or reading these anime and manga (mostly anime) feels like watching garbage rot...it is very underwhelming and I feel like I'm being made a fool allowing it to penetrate my thoughts. Perhaps I am more lenient on these matters than I should be, but I have been surprised by how good some anime and manga can be while also incorporating ecchi elements. A good example I think are the Hidan no Aria LNs - there would be no plot literally, if ecchi elements were absent; the most clear and basic example is the crux of Kinji mode.
Mullet Death - Hi, I know very well how you feel, probably. I think that always going to church alone for me attributed to my sense that I could not attain fellowship with my brothers and sisters in Christ. Knowing that this is only my shortcoming doesn't make me feel any better but I think I need to accept it. I am very weird as well, but rather than shame myself for it I am starting to feel more proud about who I am and the things I like...I think this why I decided to finally post here and not hold back on typing my thoughts. I feel like I can be more honest and upfront, almost less careful with my words (sounds very terrible, but given the internet and forum dynamics...), in the midst of fellow believers because we share a love for Jesus. I can't quite put my finger on it but it is one more thing that makes me glad about choosing my faith, at the very least.
I don't think we need to compete in weirdness...because you will probably win when it comes to the things you regard as weird about yourself, and I will win in regards to mine. I think everyone has the potential to be really unique if they decide to be honest with themselves and not just go with the flow and what's around them. Maybe that's why I am so weird...I gave up on trying to be normal.