Nate (post: 1419872) wrote:Wow, a checklist for a wife. That doesn't sound like your standards are too high at all, nope. I can just imagine it now.
"Well, you fit qualities A, B, C, D, E, and G, but not F...sorry, not good enough to be my girlfriend! But as a consolation prize, you can be my friend and I can complain to you about every other girl I meet and get feelings for who doesn't even meet half the qualities you do!"
Looking for a wife isn't The Price is Right and saying "Aw you didn't get the Plinko chip in any of the good slots BUT HERE'S A LOVELY CONSOLATION PRIZE!" it comes off as kind of a jerk, no offense.
Only because the government made it illegal. :l
I can see where you're coming from Nate, but there are certain qualities that are essential in a marriage that just aren't in a friendship. Take a good friend of mine who is incredibly sweet, generous, lots of fun to hang out with, whom I can talk to about anything. The catch? He doesn't find divorce sinful. Personally, I do. Now, would someone being ok with the idea of a divorce make me want to be his friend any less? Of course not. But that certainly is something that makes me think twice about wanting to marry him.
Or yet again, I personally have been a missionary to several countries. Though I'm not doing that actively right now, I haven't closed myself off to the possibility of it ever happening again. So a man that wouldn't be open to answering the call to missions wouldn't be a good fit for me. But I am friends with tons of people that wouldn't be a foreign missionary.