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Postby teen4truth » Sun Mar 30, 2008 7:23 pm

Is it worth it not to cut when I want to so badly?

I've been deweeding a small patch of trees near our house lately and the thorns have given me a lot of scratches, so I could get away with it. My family wouldn't suspect a thing.

I've wanted to for a long time but I keep holding myself back but I don't want to anymore I just want to do it gosh its one of the deepest desires I've ever felt, if not the deepest but I'm so hesitant.
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Postby Peanut » Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:19 pm

teen4truth (post: 1211888) wrote:Is it worth it not to cut when I want to so badly?

I have no clue what is going on in your life and what I am about to say is rather cliche, but God does loves you and I know he doesn't want you to harm yourself.
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Postby chelle0227 » Sun Mar 30, 2008 8:52 pm

I would suggest you try and surpress that wanting to cut yourself....believe me it's not worth it. God loves you in every way. I don't know your situation and I'm not gonna pretend to, but just try and figure out other ways of relieving what ever your feeling with out cutting yourself.
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Postby Shao_Zeng » Sun Mar 30, 2008 9:24 pm

first of all...how can cutting yourself feel good? last time i checked (wich wasn't very long ago) pain doesn't feel to good!...

and it wasn't very "worth it" either.
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Postby termyt » Mon Mar 31, 2008 5:59 am

A lot of things feel good that are not healthy for you.

Some things are minor - like having an extra cookie.
Some are fairly major - like screaming at a parent or sibling for a minor infraction because you are having a bad day.

Cuts heal, but by saying that you "could get away with it" indicates that you know it's an activity that you should not be engaging in. Impulses to inflict wounds on yourself are neither rare nor all that strange. A lot of people have them. I do not want you to harm yourself. It is worth it to resist.
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Postby Etoh*the*Greato » Mon Mar 31, 2008 9:07 am

Shao_Zeng (post: 1211927) wrote:first of all...how can cutting yourself feel good? last time i checked (wich wasn't very long ago) pain doesn't feel to good!...

and it wasn't very "worth it" either.


My fiancee is actually a former cutter, so she's explained it to me this way. Cutting releases chemicals in to your body to dull the physical pain. Those are what make you feel good. There is also something to be said about making a physical mark to reflect how you're feelin' inside.
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Postby Shao Feng-Li » Mon Mar 31, 2008 1:02 pm

Cutting yourself would probably be a most foolish thing to do. Pray instead.

No good ever comes from mutilating one's self.
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Postby Tsukuyomi » Mon Mar 31, 2008 2:16 pm

Does it reallly feel THAT good to cut yourself? I've never had. Except on accident, but that's not the point. Does it really feel that good? Why? If you feel that strongly about it. Why not try to find something else in putting that energy and desire into. How about drawing or writing?

I don't like cutting myself on accident, so why would I do it on purpose o.o?

I'm not aware of your situation, but I must agree. God does love you as he does all of us. I don't think he wasn't to watch yourself do that to yourself :(
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Postby teen4truth » Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:20 pm

Well, thanks guys. After writing in my diary last night the urge died down.

As for those who don't understand cutting...I really don't think anyone fully does ^^; Different people cut for different reasons.

Some cutters do for attention (and pretty much all cutters are judged as doing if for attention).

For me, I want to do it just because I get this urge...it comes on when I"m frustrated/angry/sad. It's just this desire. And I can't explain it much further =/
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Postby Kunoichi » Mon Mar 31, 2008 6:24 pm

Teen..i have wanted that too before...

you guys may not understand or maybe you do..when you can't handle pain that is emotionally happening..you want to do anything and everything to stop it.

While i never cut myself, (my sis did and endorphins are released so it does dull the pain not to mention gives you something "physical" and real to focus on..something that you feel will heal when in your current situation you only see hopelessness),

Teen...i have been suicidal..i have wanted to just take away my pain through death and destruction of myself (i lived with emotional abuse and rape and i still didn't care...that is my healing process right now), and i understand that desire. I mean that when I say I understand that desire to just be able to get some rest and relief..

but i have also learned that there will be no rest if that is what you look for with peace...the only peace i have ever learned in this life has been at God's feet.

I'm not gonna sound all cliche on you and just say God loves you and blah blah blah, cuz i know at times that has never helped me.

But i would ask you to simply sit down, be quiet for a moment and let your soul cry..dun even matter if you physically cry..but let your soul cry..you would be amazed at how he answers.
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Postby Etoh*the*Greato » Tue Apr 01, 2008 10:10 am

[quote="teen4truth (post: 1212197)"]Well, thanks guys. After writing in my diary last night the urge died down.

As for those who don't understand cutting...I really don't think anyone fully does ^^]
Eh, the ones who brag and show them off do it for attention. I know those guys offend cutters who actually do it because of depression pretty hard-core. Jen turns red when she meets those people.
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Postby Shao Feng-Li » Tue Apr 01, 2008 4:30 pm

What do they call themselves then? Professional cutters? It's stupid no matter what your reason is for doing it. (Not meaning that their feelings aren't real or that they're stupid.)
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Postby termyt » Wed Apr 02, 2008 9:44 am

Well, we all do stupid things, Shao. It just doesn't seem stupid at the time because it meets some need - either emotional or physical.

I understand a little about how pain works. I have never cut myself, but I have inflicted pain on myself to relieve pain elsewhere. For example, I often suffer from very strong, almost debilitating headaches. When I feel one coming on, I will clamp down on the fleshy web like flesh in between the thumb and forefinger. The pain there is minor compared to the headache pain, but it drowns out the headache.
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Postby Popsicle » Wed Apr 02, 2008 11:39 am

[color="DeepSkyBlue"]Well, I don't believe you should cut yourself no matter how strong the urge is. Satan is the one feeding that desire to you. He will do anything to you to get you farther from Christ. In the long run, cutting will just bring you more harm and God doesn't want to see you hurt yourself or fall victim to Satan's influence. Be strong in the Lord and know that you can place your burdens at His feet. He will comfort you and He can even use this bad situation to help you grow with Him.

Genesis 50:20 says, "You intended to harm me, but God intended it for good to accomplish what is now being done, the saving of many lives."

God can make good the bad situation that Satan meant for evil. Maybe in the future God will use the situation you're in to help comfort another in their time of need. Have faith that Jesus will help you and that you'll come out of this urge that you have. You'll be in my prayers! :)[/color]
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Postby Tsukuyomi » Wed Apr 02, 2008 12:10 pm

Instead of cutting. Why not paint or something? Just slap a bunch of paint on the canvas to let out that anger/fustration :) I know it seems easier then done, but there must be something other then cutting you can do as a stress reliever o.o
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Postby kirakira » Thu Apr 03, 2008 3:43 am

*hugs teen* Hey babe. Yeah, I been there. Over and over. Don't start. Think of it like having premarital sex; yeah, our body wants it, but you know it's not right.

Journaling instead of cutting was an excellent thing to do, and major props to you for doing that instead! There's always a better way out. *hugs* I'll be prayin' for you, ok?
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Postby Slytherine » Thu Apr 03, 2008 7:20 pm

As a reformed cutter, I know the EXTREME urge to cut. I didn't really know how to handle my issues in an approprate way, and my bleeding on the outside mirrored the bleeding desperation I felt on the inside. I was smarter then my other cutter friends; I never slashed my wrists. Therefore, I have hateful, self-degregating words craved into my inner thighs.

I'm glad you found writing as an escape; I did too! Expressing your anxieties on paper is much easier. And recently, when I have an urge to cut, among other things, just reading from the Bible really helps. Asking God for strength is one thing, but reading about the strength he gave others can give you strength too; also, it's something to solidly focus on. Always helpful.

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Postby teen4truth » Wed Apr 09, 2008 7:26 pm

thanks guys...I got it again today, but reading your comments really helps.

@kirakira: thanks for the comparison to premarital sex, I think that should help me

@slyth: heh I was considering doing it on my sides or stomach or thighs.
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Postby NekoChan_C » Thu May 01, 2008 10:52 am

I was a cutter, too. As recently as October of last year, when things went far, far south with my boyfriend... It wasn't something that I did all the time, but it was something that brought a twisted sense of peace in the middle of a horrible storm . It was, for me at least, a physical manisfestation of the emotional pain inside. Like an outlet or a release valve to let out all the pressure that built up inside... it hurts to cut, but that can be part of the compulsion. The physical pain can take precedence over the horrible, ganwing pain in your heart. But it can never, ever replace the comfort of knowing that God is watching over you, loving you and wrapping you in His embrace whenever you ask Him...

Be strong and resist the urge. It won't make anything better. God wants you to lean on Him when you are in pain, or weak. He can sustain you! ^_^
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Postby Neurotic » Mon May 12, 2008 1:22 pm

I never got into cutting, myself, but I understand addiction (a struggle with pornography, but I digress).
I wonder whether or not cutting (or anything else) even works given that the urge keeps coming back. True, anger and other negative emotions recur in our lives, but our solution should not make us want the solution process more than a cure. What do you think?
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Postby Wind » Tue May 13, 2008 1:48 am

I know how you feel teen4truth I am have the same problem now and I don't know whoto trust or how to feel the only reason I am not is because I made a promise to my bf
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Postby Warrior 4 Jesus » Tue May 13, 2008 2:35 am

I don't understand the desire to cut but like people said it's addiction and one of the many ways people deal with stresses in their life.
For me it's Lust, for others Cutting may seem like the answer.
But it's not.
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Postby Chosen » Thu May 15, 2008 11:45 am

Teen4Christ,
I know where you are coming from. Both I and my boyfriend have cut in the past. For me the urges have never gone fully away. However keeping a Journal and Praying help greatly to contain such urges. Drawing and writing also help. I'll be praying for you.
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Postby Etoh*the*Greato » Thu May 15, 2008 11:50 am

Shao Feng-Li (post: 1212615) wrote:What do they call themselves then? Professional cutters? It's stupid no matter what your reason is for doing it. (Not meaning that their feelings aren't real or that they're stupid.)


I realize this is months old but, meh. I'm not trying to start a debate here. It's like being an alcoholic and having all the pain and struggles that go with it, then the guy that wanders in to AA because he wants attention. Yeah, there may be a need for love and validation there, but while he's seeking that love and validation he's stepping on everyone who actually has a problem to get it. It's insulting to them. I know in the case of my fiancee it was a major sore spot. She was a cutter. When she was unwillingly outed as one lots of people started doing it around her.
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Postby Wind » Thu May 15, 2008 12:16 pm

Chosen (post: 1226418) wrote:Teen4Christ,
I know where you are coming from. Both I and my boyfriend have cut in the past. For me the urges have never gone fully away. However keeping a Journal and Praying help greatly to contain such urges. Drawing and writing also help. I'll be praying for you.


I agree with this sentiment I am an artist, I write stories,poetry and do other artsy things because I am former cutter I do know how it feels and how hard it is just know that there are people who care about you and God loves you and feel free to PM me whenever youg et the urge to cut ok
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Postby Amzi Live » Thu May 15, 2008 7:36 pm

I haven't experience cutting,but I'll be praying for you.
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Postby oro! » Mon May 19, 2008 8:59 am

Quas (post: 1227338) wrote:i often cut myself, it helps me alot. trust me, just do the cuts and you'll be good for some time. im so glad that i can cut myself.


What kind of crap is this? If you're trying to be funny, shame on you. If you're serious, you need to be prayed for as well. Look. This forum is for edification and prayer, not comments like this; it's called "Testimonials and Spiritual Growth." Please respect that. If you really cut yourself, try to get help...
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Postby Shao_Zeng » Mon May 19, 2008 9:22 am

Quas (post: 1227338) wrote:i often cut myself, it helps me alot. trust me, just do the cuts and you'll be good for some time. im so glad that i can cut myself.


I agree with oro.

We are trying to DISCOURAGE people from cutting them selves not encourage...:shake:
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Postby Warrior 4 Jesus » Tue May 20, 2008 2:29 am

Quas, I'm guessing you're one of those sick fuggs who thinks cutting is funny and has a good laugh over it.
Cutting is extremely serious and not to be made fun of.
There are a lot of hurting people that need help.
Do something useful for once in your life.
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Postby K. Ayato » Tue May 20, 2008 7:11 am

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