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Saving your first kiss?

Postby Popsicle » Mon Oct 29, 2007 10:08 pm

[color="DeepSkyBlue"]Hey everyone! Awhile ago God told me to save my first kiss for my wedding day and I was wondering if anyone else has made this decision too. It would be cool to hear your testimony about it if you have one. Or if you made any special decisions or promises about "purity," it would be cool to hear from you too.

Here's mine:
My best friend had recently introduced the idea of "saving my first kiss" for my wedding day to me. I prayed to God about the idea to see if He wanted me to make the decision. I was in the middle of getting my hair done at a salon and I was reading a book. It is a Christian book and in it one of the characters was talking about saving their first kiss. I was like, "wow!" Then one of the ladies that was sitting next to me in the other seat started talking about her friend who saved her first kiss and just had her wedding. At this moment I was in shock and totally felt the Holy Spirit in me. I believe God answered my prayer there and so I made the promise to myself and God and to my husband-to-be that I will save my first kiss and of course still stay "pure" with the rest of my body. I admit it was a hard decision to make, but it is well worth it, especially if you are following God's will.

Now this promise isn't for everyone, so don't think I'm trying to make everybody stop kissing each other! lol :lol:[/color]
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Postby K. Ayato » Tue Oct 30, 2007 12:48 am

Hahaha, you're right about that. It's a pretty impressive commitment to save the first kiss until you're married, but as you said, it's not for everyone.

I've made the commitment to stay pure, and recently bought a ring that says "True Love Waits". It's a good reminder for me, in not only does the message tell me to wait for marriage, but also that when comes to finding your true love, you don't rush into things and end up with a huge mess.
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Postby Gabriel 9.0 » Tue Oct 30, 2007 2:27 pm

I'm saving my first for when God leads me to my future wife. I feel it is more special that way and worth the wait:).
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Postby K. Ayato » Tue Oct 30, 2007 2:32 pm

Here's a question for all of us. How do you keep to your commitment to wait when challenges come and you think waiting isn't worth it?
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Postby Popsicle » Tue Oct 30, 2007 3:22 pm

[color="DeepSkyBlue"]That's cool K.Ayato, my friend has a ring like that too.

Well, I've never been in a relationship so the challenges have never been that bad. But there has been times when I think that it will be a very hard commitment to keep. I usually find myself diving into the Word and praying when those thoughts and feelings come. I always pray for God to give me strength for those challenging moments. My best friend is also my accountability partner so that will help if I ever get into a relationship.[/color]
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Postby Nate » Wed Oct 31, 2007 12:34 pm

I couldn't do it, but if you want to, more power to you.
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Postby Raiden no Kishi » Wed Oct 31, 2007 12:40 pm

K. Ayato wrote:Here's a question for all of us. How do you keep to your commitment to wait when challenges come and you think waiting isn't worth it?


Excuse the random interjection, but I think it might help to remind yourself that you made a promise, ergo you don't have a choice. For me, it helps to couch it in terms that make the right choice the only possible one. Your mileage will generally vary. ^_^

To be honest, this is an issue I haven't put much thought into, but I believe I too am saving my first kiss.

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Postby LadyRushia » Wed Oct 31, 2007 8:17 pm

Yay! I also have a "True Love Waits" ring ^_^

Hmm, I haven't put too much thought in saving my first kiss, but that's a pretty big commitment. Good for you for making that choice though.
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Postby josh_manga » Wed Oct 31, 2007 9:44 pm

The ring thing never worked for me, well, it worked some, but i had different... issues.

Anyway, on topic! I think it's cool that you are doing that, our culture is way to desensitized. I think about the people who get all aghast at the thought of saving it, "why??? It's just a kiss!!!!!" and all that jazz. But really, if it's "just" a kiss, why get all bent out of shape, unless it really does mean something... right? ;-)

I am currently engaged, and we have not kissed, but let me qualify that real quick. We kiss from the fingertips up to the shoulders, and we kiss each other's hair that is not touching the head. And really, that's enough stimulation as it is. Heck, we can get enjoyment from kissing each other over the phone! I say all this as an example, how i see it is that society is too cold to such simpler forms of showing affection.

One thing i can tell you, when you do find mister right, make sure he knows of your convictions, and agrees to them himself. It's not enough just to respect someone else's boundaries in a relationship of that depth and emotion, you have to be in agreement. Consider it as early practice toward 'being one' with each other in the flesh. If your physical boundaries are the same, you won't want to hurt each other by breaking them. If you hurt the other, you are hurting yourself.

Keeping each other accountable is a chore, but it's good housework. Also, having other people aware of your boundaries and commitments is good, they will hold you to them as well, but you have to let them hold you to it.

Boy, i could write a book on this... Anyhoo, God's blessings on you and your guy, wherever he may be.

Oh yeah, another way of looking at it is this. Your body belongs to God first, and your spouse second. If you give too much to the guy you are dating, even if you marry him later, you still didn't save it for your husband. You may think, "well, it's my body too" but remember, you and your spouse are one. Your body is his, and his body is yours, together, as one, under God, in marriage. No other way.
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Postby Alexander » Thu Nov 01, 2007 12:57 am

K. Ayato wrote:Here's a question for all of us. How do you keep to your commitment to wait when challenges come and you think waiting isn't worth it?


There never was a challenge for me. I doubt it ever will be.

I heavily doubt I'll be married to start with. Although I still plan to keep my first kiss pure, even if I feel it won't happen.
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Postby AsianBlossom » Thu Nov 01, 2007 6:12 am

Hmm...never really thought too much about my first kiss. I guess that's something I could try shooting for. :)
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Postby Danderson » Thu Nov 01, 2007 9:01 pm

I guess you could say I've commited myself to "waiting till marrige," as for the kissing thing though, I guess I'd put that under that commitment, though I really don't think about it alot....

I guess that comes from seeing my future potentional someone as a Sister in Christ first....and thinking about that person as a sister, it makes u sick seeing urself kissing ur actual sister (on the lips, anyways....), and, from my P.O.V. it makes the whole relationship alot more mature....and that's all mine tired self can think of saying right now....
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Postby chibiphonebooth » Thu Nov 01, 2007 10:22 pm

i have the same ring. :3

well, my first kiss was technically stolen a year ago. I had a boyfriend and yeah.

but our relationship did not work out very well (he wasnt a Christian) and we broke up. I prayed that God would restore my innocence and my first kiss and stuff.... and
Now i feel like i havent even dated anyone. XP

its great, i feel like i got my first kiss back. lol.

i'm saving it for the right guy. not technically for marriage- but just for when i know that he is the right guy for me.
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Postby 12praiseGOD » Sat Nov 03, 2007 6:19 pm

I would like to save my first kiss till marriage...and am definetely shooting for that..but I can't promise anything especially to GOD...for I am a human and do sin and mess up...so I really wouldn't want to break a promise with GOD so yeah...but I am definitly planing on saving it.
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Postby AsianBlossom » Sat Nov 03, 2007 7:02 pm

True. God knows that we'll make promises we can't keep, but if we just try to keep things without making them into promises, it might be a little easier, especially in terms of things that aren't really sinful. Like this; I'm not going to make some big promise that I won't kiss any guy until marriage, but if I can make it there, then that's really fantastic. If I can't, and give my future fiance a kiss before the "I Do," I didn't break any promise.

But it's still nice to try and wait. :)
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Postby chelle0227 » Sat Nov 03, 2007 7:18 pm

My first real kiss is gonna be saved for the person, that god tells me is right. That is what I follow.
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Postby HiddenWoodchuck » Sat Nov 03, 2007 7:47 pm

I think it's great saving your first kiss for marriage... I read a book about purity a long time ago that really inspired me to hope for the same. I can't promise, like others said, but I want it to be that way for me. I think once/if I find that special someone, then it would be nice if they felt the same way... it makes things so much more special on that "amazing day". I love hugs, and that is something I don't mind saying is the farthest I go before marriage.
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Postby ShiroiHikari » Sat Nov 03, 2007 8:29 pm

I dunno...I think waiting until marriage to even kiss somebody is taking things way too far. But that's just my opinion.
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Postby Nate » Mon Nov 05, 2007 9:58 am

I don't think it's taking things too far. I think in a way, it's admirable. I do think it could cause some problems, but it also avoids some others. Like I said, I could never do it. I have low self-esteem, and if a girl refused to kiss me (even because of a promise like this) it would destroy me emotionally. So I couldn't date a girl who did this, nor could I do it myself. But I guess for people who have positive self-images, it's a bit different. XD
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Postby K. Ayato » Mon Nov 05, 2007 10:07 am

It really boils down to personal conviction and individual promises regarding purity.
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Postby Popsicle » Tue Nov 06, 2007 12:12 am

[color="DeepSkyBlue"]God told me to make the commitment to save my first kiss, so I did. I want to obey what God tells me to do. His will his best for my life. Maybe this decision will help me find my future husband. My future husband will be someone who admires me for my decision and will not tempt me to fall away from it. He will love that I saved my first kiss just for him and no one else. He may possibly have the same commitment as me. Who knows...maybe I won't even get married. I just need to follow God's will. :)[/color]
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Postby Mave » Wed Nov 07, 2007 3:23 am

Well, this is something I wouldn't say I'm doing because God told me so but I am saving my first kiss for my wedding. Why? I just feel like saving the experience to make it more special and since it's not bothering God's command in any way, it is all jolly good. Even if I mess it up then, it'll be a good memorable event with my future spouse. :lol:

This has nothing to do with the guy, although I would expect him to honor the decision. If not, then well, I guess he's not the one for me and that's perfectly ok.
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Postby Sheenar » Wed Nov 07, 2007 10:36 am

I know that when you kiss someone in a romantic way, it creates an emotional bond (or something) --I want to save my first kiss for my future spouse so I don't give part of myself to someone else --I want to be able to give my whole self/heart to my spouse.
I'm not sure yet if I will save my first kiss for the actual wedding ceremony or kiss during engagement. I guess it all depends on the level of temptation we each face individually. I definitely wouldn't want to do anything to cause my future spouse to stumble...
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Postby Sparx00 » Wed Nov 07, 2007 12:14 pm

I myself am saveing my first kiss.
I want to make it something special and worth while.
I think it'll be cool to have my first kiss at my wedding.
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Postby Kairi » Fri Nov 09, 2007 2:45 pm

I'm also planning to save my first kiss for my husband, on our wedding day. I think that it would bother me, and take away from the moment, if I had already kissed a guy other than him.

Even if I had the most wonderful boyfriend right now, how would I know that he'd be the one I'd eventually marry? Anything could happen--he could break up with me, die, all kinds of stuff--so that's why the only man who's gonna get anything out of me is my OFFICIAL husband. xD I know it will take a lot of prayer and strength from God for me to keep that promise, but it's possible and will be so worth it in the end. One of the best gifts you could give your future spouse is your purity, right? (I'm not saying that kissing is horrible or anything, but it can lead up to other stuff, so there's nothing wrong with staying on the safe side.)
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Postby Popsicle » Fri Nov 09, 2007 3:02 pm

[color="DeepSkyBlue"]Wow, I never knew so many other people have made this commitment. Before this the only ppl I knew were me and my best friend. It's really cool to hear about everyone's decision! :)[/color]
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Postby PSA374 » Tue Nov 27, 2007 6:28 am

I too believe in this "Kiss preservation" stuff...i wanna save it for the one God has for me....
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Postby White_Rose » Thu Nov 29, 2007 12:39 pm

Hey!

What an amazing topic. I never thought I would find a topic like this!

I am saving my first kiss for my wedding day.

No boy is going home with my first kiss, but only the one that will stay by my side for the rest of my life. I don't date either, because I feel like it's playing with love, and needless heartbreak, and I don't want any of that to come between me and my future husband.

I've been set on these morals for a long time now. I first decided that was what I would do, when a girl band played at my church and the lead singer said that she was saving her first kiss.
I think I was about 11 then, and I'm 18 now.

I can't wait until I meet my future husband, so I can tell him that I've saved my whole heart -every last bit- just for him!
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Postby Warrior 4 Jesus » Fri Nov 30, 2007 3:21 am

If you don't date, how are you going to find who's a suitable marriage partner for you? It's a noble idea but idealistic for most.
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Postby Warrior 4 Jesus » Sat Dec 01, 2007 1:00 am

Yes, I'm 24 and I've never kissed a girl. Are you okay with that?
I see it like this: there's no point kissing someone just because you can and it makes you happy.
I don't know that I would leave my kiss for the wedding day, but I would want to share it with someone who is special to me.
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